Reality check people, growing up is terrible, horrible, worst thing that could ever happen to anyone. We all do it though so our real reality is to "Grow up and shut up" I miss the days where I could do what I wanted when I wanted. High school was a wonderful time for me. Lots of friends, sports, clubs, you name it I did it. What I didn't realize is how much the "real world" is just like high school. OK so maybe I can't play sports or join any clubs but my friends have remained the same. I like to think I have remained the same. I didn't get the nickname Kidd just because.
What's hard for me to remember is that I am not a kid anymore. I can't play 6 volleyball games in one day like I used to, my body won't let me. I can't stay up and party like I used to, my mind won't let me. I can't be twenty places at one time like I used to, my job won't let me. I know your now asking yourself, why are you being such a Debbie Downer. I am not, I can assure you of that. What I am trying to say is that the past is the past. Our future is what we make it. I can't live in the past every day and hope to have success in my future. I can't look back and say what if? You have to choose to be happy everyday. It was easy when I was younger because I was able to do things that I wanted that made me happy. Now I have to make sure I do the things I loved to keep me happy. Writing, singing, coaching, laughing. Whatever it may be I CHOOSE to be happy everyday.
Growing up will never keep my happiness in the dark. I will forever and always be a POSITIVE POLLY!!
Friday, July 27, 2012
Thursday, July 26, 2012
We go for the Gold
Is anyone else excited for the Olympics as much as I am?? I enjoy both the summer and winter Olympics but I have to say the summer Olympics are my favorite. I love watching all these amazing athletes that the world offers up to compete in all kinds of sports. Who knew walking was an Olympic sport? It totally is the 50km walk. I will be training for that next year. This also got me thinking, if walking can be an Olympic sport why not other odd sports. Here are the sports I would like to see in the summer Olympics next go round.
Pool Basketball, OK I grew up playing pool basketball and I got pretty good at it too (or at least I thought I did) basically you have a goal on one end of a shallow end of a pool and basically play half court basketball. Fouls are impossible to call because you cant really see whats going on under the water (who cares it makes it more interesting) dunking is also pretty much unachievable as well (getting out of the pool is out of bounds so can't get out an do an ally-oop) There would obviously have to be more specific rules but I think it would be uber entertaining!
Cornhole, lets be honest here people we have all played it (with or without alcohol involved) and I am sure at one point we all believed we were the best at it. It's also a very summery sport so why not? It's already got its rules and regulations so it wouldn't be as complicated as pool basketball which has basically made up rules. It can also get really intense. I know from the games I have watched while pool side have gotten fierce (and sweaty). Either way I watched with astonishment with how close and furious the games got. I think we all agree it would be a great addition to the summer Olympics.
Darts, being an avid darter myself I would love to see this become an Olympic sport. There are many ways to play darts but I think the two ways it should be showcased in the Olympics are cricket and 501. I would explain the rules of each but it would be way too much typing so just click here. I know if darts were to become an Olympic sport I would train my ass off to play for good ole' team USA. If shooting is a sport in the Olympics then darting should be as well.
These are just some of the sports I would like to see in future Olympics. Believe me when I tell you I have more ideas for other sports but they are so incomprehensible and outrageous that the Olympic committee would probably have me committed to an insane asylum. Either way these sports should be included because they are entertaining and super fun.
Pool Basketball, OK I grew up playing pool basketball and I got pretty good at it too (or at least I thought I did) basically you have a goal on one end of a shallow end of a pool and basically play half court basketball. Fouls are impossible to call because you cant really see whats going on under the water (who cares it makes it more interesting) dunking is also pretty much unachievable as well (getting out of the pool is out of bounds so can't get out an do an ally-oop) There would obviously have to be more specific rules but I think it would be uber entertaining!
Cornhole, lets be honest here people we have all played it (with or without alcohol involved) and I am sure at one point we all believed we were the best at it. It's also a very summery sport so why not? It's already got its rules and regulations so it wouldn't be as complicated as pool basketball which has basically made up rules. It can also get really intense. I know from the games I have watched while pool side have gotten fierce (and sweaty). Either way I watched with astonishment with how close and furious the games got. I think we all agree it would be a great addition to the summer Olympics.
Darts, being an avid darter myself I would love to see this become an Olympic sport. There are many ways to play darts but I think the two ways it should be showcased in the Olympics are cricket and 501. I would explain the rules of each but it would be way too much typing so just click here. I know if darts were to become an Olympic sport I would train my ass off to play for good ole' team USA. If shooting is a sport in the Olympics then darting should be as well.
These are just some of the sports I would like to see in future Olympics. Believe me when I tell you I have more ideas for other sports but they are so incomprehensible and outrageous that the Olympic committee would probably have me committed to an insane asylum. Either way these sports should be included because they are entertaining and super fun.
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
It's 5 o'clock somewhere!
OK so my vacation is steadily approaching and I, of course like every other human being, can't EFFING wait for it to get here. My vaca is chock full of delicious adventures. To start I will be having a 5 day beach trip with my Hangmaids at the beaches of myrtle (Myrtle Beach for those of you who don't live in NC or SC) I expect things to get rambunctious. After that I have a few lazy days to myself with a cookout possibly int here somewhere followed by a HUGE yard sale on Saturday. Yea I know a yard sale isn't how some of you would spend your vacation but if you wanted/needed cash like I did you would be having one too.
What I really wanted this to be about is the amount of vacations we the "working force" folks get. It's not nearly enough. I think its irresponsible of businesses today to not allow us to operate like the school systems do. If the kids don't have school we shouldn't have to go to work. It's only fair really. Why should I have to scrap and forage my "earned" time just to squeak out a measly one week vacation when school children get like 5 freaking months away from school? This is one of the reasons why I wanted to be a teacher in the first place. I wanted those 3 months in the summer and basically a whole month off for Christmas. Lets face it, Christmas can be overwhelming and getting a month off for it makes up for its pressure. I of course would not do well as a school teacher due to my comedic background (you can't make fun of your students) and my quickness to resort to tears when things get...egregious.
Listen I am not trying to down the system (I guess you could call it that) I just would like to be able to have like a month off from work and be able to take that time without any back lash from HR. It's not too much to ask for is it? Just give me my extra vacation and I promise you I won't complain as much. It's a morale booster people. Who doesn't love vacations? (if you don't then you most certainly aren't human)
What I really wanted this to be about is the amount of vacations we the "working force" folks get. It's not nearly enough. I think its irresponsible of businesses today to not allow us to operate like the school systems do. If the kids don't have school we shouldn't have to go to work. It's only fair really. Why should I have to scrap and forage my "earned" time just to squeak out a measly one week vacation when school children get like 5 freaking months away from school? This is one of the reasons why I wanted to be a teacher in the first place. I wanted those 3 months in the summer and basically a whole month off for Christmas. Lets face it, Christmas can be overwhelming and getting a month off for it makes up for its pressure. I of course would not do well as a school teacher due to my comedic background (you can't make fun of your students) and my quickness to resort to tears when things get...egregious.
Listen I am not trying to down the system (I guess you could call it that) I just would like to be able to have like a month off from work and be able to take that time without any back lash from HR. It's not too much to ask for is it? Just give me my extra vacation and I promise you I won't complain as much. It's a morale booster people. Who doesn't love vacations? (if you don't then you most certainly aren't human)
Tuesday, July 24, 2012
I just wanna be...Happy
I have always considered myself a "positive Polly" so all this negativity here recently has tried to drain my positiveness. Nothing makes me happier than achieving a dream. I got the opportunity last October to capture a dream with my best friend. I got to coach my old high school volleyball team's AAU program. I love volleyball and have loved volleyball ever since I started playing in middle school until it got ripped away from me in college. I have always thought I would be a better coach than player because of the way I saw the game unfold. I never knew how fulfilling coaching would actually be.
I coached two teams this season and made real connections with a group of teenagers. I know what your thinking, teenagers? but their so...unrefined? Well no, they aren't. At least the ones I coached aren't. They were the most mature bunch of girls I have ever met to be honest. Battle tested, parent approved! They weren't your typical "I don't care about anything but myself" teenagers. They actually cared about each other and even more about their sport. It reminded me of how my old high school team acted. (refer to previous blogs to see how amazing my high school team was) I would say the word that would best describe these girls would be Determined. They all wanted to perfect their craft, constantly picking our brains on how we would have done it, how should they tweak what they were currently doing, and how to win and win at a consistent level. I have never seen a more driven team.
We didn't win every game this season, we didn't have to. They won within themselves. They all accomplished things that, coming into this season they probably didn't believe they would. If I had to give out awards at the end of the season they would have all gotten "most improved". We had some great wins and some painful losses. We made sure that after every game they knew their abilities didn't go unnoticed. As long as they played with 100% heart and determination that was all we could ask for. They did, they played every single game like it was their last. I never knew how proud I would be of a group of teenagers.
I'd be lying to you if I said these girls didn't change my life. They did, they absolutely did. Up until I started coaching them I wanted nothing to do with volleyball. I had a horrible experience in college while playing for my collegiate team. That incident made me HATE volleyball, it destroyed my confidence and took away my drive. It was a player/coach "misunderstanding" as my coach would have put it. I consider it a life altering moment, and not the good kind. I ended up quitting because of it. The day I quit I told myself that's it, no more, no more playing, and no to coaching. After I graduated from college my mom was trying to help me figure out what to do with my life. She asked me why I didn't coach within my old AAU organization. I told her no way no how. I just knew it would bring back bad memories. After a few years of her asking me I finally gave in and coached. I am so glad I did. These girls brought a dream I had given up on back to life. They gave me something that I was completely sure that I didn't want anymore. They brought back my passion for volleyball. They inspired me. They still inspire me. They will always inspire me.
To my girls, Thank you, You all are amazing and I hope you all inspire others the way you inspired me. I can't wait to coach you all again this year!
To my best friend/asst/head coach, Jess, Thank you for pushing me just as hard as the girls did. I couldn't have done it without you. Your support and effort was super amazeballs!
I coached two teams this season and made real connections with a group of teenagers. I know what your thinking, teenagers? but their so...unrefined? Well no, they aren't. At least the ones I coached aren't. They were the most mature bunch of girls I have ever met to be honest. Battle tested, parent approved! They weren't your typical "I don't care about anything but myself" teenagers. They actually cared about each other and even more about their sport. It reminded me of how my old high school team acted. (refer to previous blogs to see how amazing my high school team was) I would say the word that would best describe these girls would be Determined. They all wanted to perfect their craft, constantly picking our brains on how we would have done it, how should they tweak what they were currently doing, and how to win and win at a consistent level. I have never seen a more driven team.
We didn't win every game this season, we didn't have to. They won within themselves. They all accomplished things that, coming into this season they probably didn't believe they would. If I had to give out awards at the end of the season they would have all gotten "most improved". We had some great wins and some painful losses. We made sure that after every game they knew their abilities didn't go unnoticed. As long as they played with 100% heart and determination that was all we could ask for. They did, they played every single game like it was their last. I never knew how proud I would be of a group of teenagers.
I'd be lying to you if I said these girls didn't change my life. They did, they absolutely did. Up until I started coaching them I wanted nothing to do with volleyball. I had a horrible experience in college while playing for my collegiate team. That incident made me HATE volleyball, it destroyed my confidence and took away my drive. It was a player/coach "misunderstanding" as my coach would have put it. I consider it a life altering moment, and not the good kind. I ended up quitting because of it. The day I quit I told myself that's it, no more, no more playing, and no to coaching. After I graduated from college my mom was trying to help me figure out what to do with my life. She asked me why I didn't coach within my old AAU organization. I told her no way no how. I just knew it would bring back bad memories. After a few years of her asking me I finally gave in and coached. I am so glad I did. These girls brought a dream I had given up on back to life. They gave me something that I was completely sure that I didn't want anymore. They brought back my passion for volleyball. They inspired me. They still inspire me. They will always inspire me.
To my girls, Thank you, You all are amazing and I hope you all inspire others the way you inspired me. I can't wait to coach you all again this year!
To my best friend/asst/head coach, Jess, Thank you for pushing me just as hard as the girls did. I couldn't have done it without you. Your support and effort was super amazeballs!
Monday, July 23, 2012
No one ever said it would be this hard
I come from a small town, born and raised in Eden NC. It has its positives and negatives of course but what I have always loved about my small town is how the community embraces a family during a loss. Over the weekend we had a tragedy that no town should have to cope with. Losing two young adults/sisters to a horrific car accident. Seeing someone go so young reminds us all that our time on this earth is way too short and that everyday needs to be cherished. Tell the ones you love that you love them everyday because you never know when its going to be your last.
In moments of darkness it is the light that brings our hearts back to life. Losing a loved one is one of the hardest things for anyone to endure, but what we have to focus on is that even though our loved one may no longer physically be with us, they still live on through us. Their light is transferred from their body to the ones that they love. Deep in our souls we feel this connection, this bond that will forever link us to them. We may not be able to see their face every day but knowing they are with us will help us realize that we never really lost them. So in times of darkness remember to let your light shine, not only for you but for the ones who are no longer with us. By letting your light shine brightly it tells the ones who are no longer with us that you are doing just fine and that a piece of them now lives inside of you.
Our hearts will mend over time, but their memory will never be repressed. I know people are asking themselves, Why them? Why did they have to go so young? They had their whole lives a head of them why now? No one can know for certain. What we need to do now is remember the good times, the times they made us smile, inspired us, enlightened us. I did not know these girls as well as others did, but I do know they were wonderful people. I can tell you that by the amount of love I have seen from the ones who knew them well. I know this will make our community stronger, I just wished a loss like this wasn't the cause.
Don't take any day you have on this earth for granted, because you never know if it will be your last...
Rest In Peace Taylor and Meredith
Gone, but NEVER forgotten.
In moments of darkness it is the light that brings our hearts back to life. Losing a loved one is one of the hardest things for anyone to endure, but what we have to focus on is that even though our loved one may no longer physically be with us, they still live on through us. Their light is transferred from their body to the ones that they love. Deep in our souls we feel this connection, this bond that will forever link us to them. We may not be able to see their face every day but knowing they are with us will help us realize that we never really lost them. So in times of darkness remember to let your light shine, not only for you but for the ones who are no longer with us. By letting your light shine brightly it tells the ones who are no longer with us that you are doing just fine and that a piece of them now lives inside of you.
Our hearts will mend over time, but their memory will never be repressed. I know people are asking themselves, Why them? Why did they have to go so young? They had their whole lives a head of them why now? No one can know for certain. What we need to do now is remember the good times, the times they made us smile, inspired us, enlightened us. I did not know these girls as well as others did, but I do know they were wonderful people. I can tell you that by the amount of love I have seen from the ones who knew them well. I know this will make our community stronger, I just wished a loss like this wasn't the cause.
Don't take any day you have on this earth for granted, because you never know if it will be your last...
Rest In Peace Taylor and Meredith
Gone, but NEVER forgotten.
Friday, July 20, 2012
Like a Boss
I should have included another person in my "I get by with a little help from my friends" post but I felt compelled to give this person their own post. My former boss Melissa is part of the reason why I am aspiring to be who I am today. I guess I should break down our story a little for you to understand just how important she is to me.
I got my first real job offer 6 months after I graduated from college and was beyond nervous. I was offered a position at a local credit union in the area and went in on my first day really confident (or I thought it was confidence) I marched right in and right up to the member service desk and said "I am here to see Michelle." I immediately knew I had done something wrong. If you notice in the paragraph above her name is clearly Melissa. She walked right out to greet me and said "Hey I am Melissa and if were going to be working together I am going to need you to get my name right." First impressions are important but having a sense of humor about screwing up those first impressions is what matters. From that day forth I worked as hard as I could for her. I learned everything I could as quickly as possible from her. She had been with the credit union 10+ years and was full of knowledge so why not? Throughout this process we developed a strong friendship (twilight and the hunger games helped) I gained a trust and understanding with her like I have never had with anyone. Not only was she a great friend but an even more amazing mentor. If I had a problem, I went to her for help. If I had issues at home, she helped me through them. Basically she was my saving grace for my first two years at this credit union.
January of this year she dropped a bomb on me, she had been hinting for a while that she was thinking about moving to the beach. Like usual I just shrugged it off, we always talked about moving and doing these awesome things but never followed through. I just figured this was one of those moments. Before the month was over it was official that she was going to be relocated to a branch on the Outer Banks and was moving as soon as possible. This broke my heart, I knew I had to support her decision and I did but that didn't mean I wasn't crushed. I was losing a great boss, but more importantly I was losing a best friend. Two days before she was supposed to leave my father was having knee replacement surgery. I was torn between staying with my friend who was leaving in two days or my father who was having surgery. There was no way I could miss being with my father but I was literally torn apart about it. I spent that whole morning in tears because I wouldn't be able to spend one of the last days with Melissa.
It hit me harder than I was expecting. How am I supposed to send this person off who basically gave me a job, showed me how to be great at it, all while being an incredible friend and leader to me? It wasn't easy I promise you that. I never cried in front of her because I didn't want her to get upset. She was starting a new chapter in her life, stepping out of her comfort zone into somewhere totally new. I couldn't let her see my pain because I didn't want her to worry when she already had enough on her plate. I graciously said said my goodbyes, gave her a huge hug then watched her walk away.
What I didn't realize is how different I would be after she left. It's like her whole "work attitude" rubbed off on me. I had this new sense of purpose to everything I did at my job. I work as hard as she would. I problem solved as best as she could. I find myself everyday doing something that she taught me how to do. Her influence on me has made me a greater employee and a better person. I thank her for all of her dedication, hardwork and effort she put into me because I know without it I probably would have quit. I know these are just mere words on a page. They dont nearly do our relationship justice but our story needed to be shared.
This is for you Demko, you have no idea the impact you have had on my life. I love you like a sister. I of course would love it if you came home but that beach life is hard to leave. I appreciate everything you have ever done for me and I can't wait for New Moon this novemeber! Love you!
I got my first real job offer 6 months after I graduated from college and was beyond nervous. I was offered a position at a local credit union in the area and went in on my first day really confident (or I thought it was confidence) I marched right in and right up to the member service desk and said "I am here to see Michelle." I immediately knew I had done something wrong. If you notice in the paragraph above her name is clearly Melissa. She walked right out to greet me and said "Hey I am Melissa and if were going to be working together I am going to need you to get my name right." First impressions are important but having a sense of humor about screwing up those first impressions is what matters. From that day forth I worked as hard as I could for her. I learned everything I could as quickly as possible from her. She had been with the credit union 10+ years and was full of knowledge so why not? Throughout this process we developed a strong friendship (twilight and the hunger games helped) I gained a trust and understanding with her like I have never had with anyone. Not only was she a great friend but an even more amazing mentor. If I had a problem, I went to her for help. If I had issues at home, she helped me through them. Basically she was my saving grace for my first two years at this credit union.
January of this year she dropped a bomb on me, she had been hinting for a while that she was thinking about moving to the beach. Like usual I just shrugged it off, we always talked about moving and doing these awesome things but never followed through. I just figured this was one of those moments. Before the month was over it was official that she was going to be relocated to a branch on the Outer Banks and was moving as soon as possible. This broke my heart, I knew I had to support her decision and I did but that didn't mean I wasn't crushed. I was losing a great boss, but more importantly I was losing a best friend. Two days before she was supposed to leave my father was having knee replacement surgery. I was torn between staying with my friend who was leaving in two days or my father who was having surgery. There was no way I could miss being with my father but I was literally torn apart about it. I spent that whole morning in tears because I wouldn't be able to spend one of the last days with Melissa.
It hit me harder than I was expecting. How am I supposed to send this person off who basically gave me a job, showed me how to be great at it, all while being an incredible friend and leader to me? It wasn't easy I promise you that. I never cried in front of her because I didn't want her to get upset. She was starting a new chapter in her life, stepping out of her comfort zone into somewhere totally new. I couldn't let her see my pain because I didn't want her to worry when she already had enough on her plate. I graciously said said my goodbyes, gave her a huge hug then watched her walk away.
What I didn't realize is how different I would be after she left. It's like her whole "work attitude" rubbed off on me. I had this new sense of purpose to everything I did at my job. I work as hard as she would. I problem solved as best as she could. I find myself everyday doing something that she taught me how to do. Her influence on me has made me a greater employee and a better person. I thank her for all of her dedication, hardwork and effort she put into me because I know without it I probably would have quit. I know these are just mere words on a page. They dont nearly do our relationship justice but our story needed to be shared.
This is for you Demko, you have no idea the impact you have had on my life. I love you like a sister. I of course would love it if you came home but that beach life is hard to leave. I appreciate everything you have ever done for me and I can't wait for New Moon this novemeber! Love you!
Thursday, July 19, 2012
I ball so hard...Are you ready for some Football?
Listen, I am not your typical southern girl. I am a full fledged sports fanatic. My favorite channel on TV is ESPN seriously that isn't a joke. You can ask me just about any sports question and I am pretty sure I can answer it. I have my favorite teams of course (Duke Basketball, Carolina Panthers, Miami Heat, Boston Red Sox) but just because I have favorites doesn't mean I don't like all sports. I love being able to hear men having "water cooler talk" about the games they watched the night before and then I come in adding my insight. I know they look at me like I am cray cray but I know what the F I am talking about. Once they realize that they definitely look at me differently. I have some of them even asking me my opinions on who I think will win, score the most, etc. If you need more proof just ask any of the guys I play fantasy football with. They don't enjoy losing to the ONLY girl in their league.
A great example of my love affair with sports is every Thanksgiving my family gathers at my parents house for a big turkey lunch and we don't have a room big enough for the whole family to sit in so the women in my family sit in the formal dining room and the men all sit in front of my dads prized possession (his 50 LCD) and watch football. Well of course I sit with the men and spit out random facts about receivers and quarterback duos and how many batted balls vs. interceptions the DB's have. It's priceless to me but confusing to others.
I always knew growing up that I would have this desire to play and watch sports. I played 3 sports in high school and played volleyball in college. I do believe that if my high school would have had a girls football team I would have been captain all 4 years. I know I had an opportunity to play with the boys but our team was so terrible I didn't want to. (sorry guys but you were) I mean its pretty bad when our school is advertising our volleyball matches over our football games. (I was 32-0 my junior and senior seasons so that should tell you our volleyball team was pretty damn good) I won 2 conference championships and banners hanging up in my old high schools gym for bragging rights. I am also a proud member of the Undefeated Club at Morehead High School. The closest I ever got to playing football was playing Powder Puff but that wasn't enough to fuel my need for all things football.
The best day of my life was when my father told me he was getting season tickets for the Carolina Panthers. I almost died in pure jubilation. I can honestly say I have been to at least one game every season that the panthers have been in existence and I patiently wait for every season with the same amount of joy I have had since 1995 (I was 9 then...I am now 25). I was there when Steve Burline and Tim Biakabutuka took us to the playoffs in 96 when we beat America's Team. I watched in nervousness when we went to our first Super Bowl vs. the Patriots in 03' (we lost of course) I was also there through the awful years, (Rae Carruth, Jake Delhomme, etc) Through all the good and bad I am still to this day a HUGE fan.
The second greatest day of my life was when the Panthers drafted Cameron Jerrell Newton number 1 overall last season. I normally know who the Panthers are going to draft weeks before. So with us having the number one pick I just couldn't understand why we wouldn't draft him. I mean lets be honest Jimmy Clausen was a complete bust. I knew it as soon as we drafted him (hello just look at how successful Notre Dame QB's have been...Brady Quinn 'nuff said) Yea so what he didn't have a good team around him, neither did Cam! He had a terrible defense last year and still managed to win 6 games (he would have won more if it weren't for the defense) I remember on Christmas day my father told me he had bought something special for me, each year he tries to surprise me with gifts that could make me, and only me happy (one year he got me Rain-X wiper blades and I was elated...not kidding either). So he saved this present for last. I opened it and what I saw gave me so much joy that I am surprised I didn't die and go to heaven. It was a picture of Cam running out of the Panthers tunnel with smoke all around him and all I could see was the back of his jersey with his finger pointed down displaying the # 1. I had to force back the tears that were about to start steadily flowing from my eyes. Dad if you read this you hit a home run seriously. BEST. CHRISTMAS. PRESENT. EVER. (its currently hanging up in my home office right beside the front door, I stare at it every morning before I go to work)
My other huge passion would have to be my Duke Blue Devils. I will tell you though I did not start out as a Duke fan. I was a Carolina fan from day one, my best friend Becca was as well and we decided that we were going to go to a basketball camp that some of our favorite Carolina players were going to be at. Our most favorite and current team hottie at the time was Dante Calabria. We got so pumped up to meet him and quickly found out which day he was going to be at the camp and of course it was the last day. We waited all week for Friday, we met some other non-important players (well non-important to us) and finally Friday arrived. That morning before we got started the camp director announced that Dante wouldn't be able to make it but Ademola Okulaja would. He was a good player at the time and I totally wanted his autograph but he was no Dante. I was filled with rage and I wanted to do something basically to get back at Carolina for cheating me out of an opportunity to meet my favorite player at the time. So I did what any reasonable Carolina fan would do, I switched over to the "dark side" From that point forward I was a Duke Blue Devil all because Dante Calabria broke my heart. It was also probably the happiest day of my dad's life, other than me graduating high school and college. I loved every Duke team from that day forward all except for one player. Chris Collins, he's a cry baby, that is all I want to say about it. I like him now as a coach but not as a player from Duke. I watched when they won the national championship in 01' with Shane Battier and Carlos Boozer, I watched again as they won it again in 2010 with 2 of the Plumlee's and Kyle Singler. Coach K is a legend and I was present at the game where he passed Dean Smith for all time wins. (third greatest day of my life) I guess you won't believe me when I tell you that I have never been to a Duke game in the historic Cameron Indoor Stadium, but I haven't. That's of course on my bucket list and I know I will get there its just a matter of time. Either way I will bleed Duke Blue until I die.
So there you have it, my background into my favorite sports teams. Feel free to ask me any sports question you have. I will more than likely have the answer for it. Come at me bro!
I always knew growing up that I would have this desire to play and watch sports. I played 3 sports in high school and played volleyball in college. I do believe that if my high school would have had a girls football team I would have been captain all 4 years. I know I had an opportunity to play with the boys but our team was so terrible I didn't want to. (sorry guys but you were) I mean its pretty bad when our school is advertising our volleyball matches over our football games. (I was 32-0 my junior and senior seasons so that should tell you our volleyball team was pretty damn good) I won 2 conference championships and banners hanging up in my old high schools gym for bragging rights. I am also a proud member of the Undefeated Club at Morehead High School. The closest I ever got to playing football was playing Powder Puff but that wasn't enough to fuel my need for all things football.
The best day of my life was when my father told me he was getting season tickets for the Carolina Panthers. I almost died in pure jubilation. I can honestly say I have been to at least one game every season that the panthers have been in existence and I patiently wait for every season with the same amount of joy I have had since 1995 (I was 9 then...I am now 25). I was there when Steve Burline and Tim Biakabutuka took us to the playoffs in 96 when we beat America's Team. I watched in nervousness when we went to our first Super Bowl vs. the Patriots in 03' (we lost of course) I was also there through the awful years, (Rae Carruth, Jake Delhomme, etc) Through all the good and bad I am still to this day a HUGE fan.
The second greatest day of my life was when the Panthers drafted Cameron Jerrell Newton number 1 overall last season. I normally know who the Panthers are going to draft weeks before. So with us having the number one pick I just couldn't understand why we wouldn't draft him. I mean lets be honest Jimmy Clausen was a complete bust. I knew it as soon as we drafted him (hello just look at how successful Notre Dame QB's have been...Brady Quinn 'nuff said) Yea so what he didn't have a good team around him, neither did Cam! He had a terrible defense last year and still managed to win 6 games (he would have won more if it weren't for the defense) I remember on Christmas day my father told me he had bought something special for me, each year he tries to surprise me with gifts that could make me, and only me happy (one year he got me Rain-X wiper blades and I was elated...not kidding either). So he saved this present for last. I opened it and what I saw gave me so much joy that I am surprised I didn't die and go to heaven. It was a picture of Cam running out of the Panthers tunnel with smoke all around him and all I could see was the back of his jersey with his finger pointed down displaying the # 1. I had to force back the tears that were about to start steadily flowing from my eyes. Dad if you read this you hit a home run seriously. BEST. CHRISTMAS. PRESENT. EVER. (its currently hanging up in my home office right beside the front door, I stare at it every morning before I go to work)
My other huge passion would have to be my Duke Blue Devils. I will tell you though I did not start out as a Duke fan. I was a Carolina fan from day one, my best friend Becca was as well and we decided that we were going to go to a basketball camp that some of our favorite Carolina players were going to be at. Our most favorite and current team hottie at the time was Dante Calabria. We got so pumped up to meet him and quickly found out which day he was going to be at the camp and of course it was the last day. We waited all week for Friday, we met some other non-important players (well non-important to us) and finally Friday arrived. That morning before we got started the camp director announced that Dante wouldn't be able to make it but Ademola Okulaja would. He was a good player at the time and I totally wanted his autograph but he was no Dante. I was filled with rage and I wanted to do something basically to get back at Carolina for cheating me out of an opportunity to meet my favorite player at the time. So I did what any reasonable Carolina fan would do, I switched over to the "dark side" From that point forward I was a Duke Blue Devil all because Dante Calabria broke my heart. It was also probably the happiest day of my dad's life, other than me graduating high school and college. I loved every Duke team from that day forward all except for one player. Chris Collins, he's a cry baby, that is all I want to say about it. I like him now as a coach but not as a player from Duke. I watched when they won the national championship in 01' with Shane Battier and Carlos Boozer, I watched again as they won it again in 2010 with 2 of the Plumlee's and Kyle Singler. Coach K is a legend and I was present at the game where he passed Dean Smith for all time wins. (third greatest day of my life) I guess you won't believe me when I tell you that I have never been to a Duke game in the historic Cameron Indoor Stadium, but I haven't. That's of course on my bucket list and I know I will get there its just a matter of time. Either way I will bleed Duke Blue until I die.
So there you have it, my background into my favorite sports teams. Feel free to ask me any sports question you have. I will more than likely have the answer for it. Come at me bro!
Wednesday, July 18, 2012
I get by with a little help from my friends
I am absolutely certain that I wouldn't be here without my magical ladies. I have no hesitation when I say these astonishing people saved my life. So beware this entry is probably going to get a little wordy...
Jessica-Our story is unique and if you know our story you know how much we really mean to each other. We met "officially" for the first time at UNCG Volleyball Camp the summer of '03. It was my senior year and my year to rule the court and no high school rival would stand in my way. Rockingham County Cougars were not only our biggest competition in our conference but they were our most HATED rival. If you were a Panther you hated all things Cougar but the day Jessica and I became friends changed all that. The day we met I had learned that my grandmother had just passed away from cancer and that exact same day Jess found out her grandmother had just gotten cancer. The night after learning about my grandmothers death the only person I really wanted to talk to was her. I barely even knew her but I felt like she would know exactly what I was going through. I went home from camp that year having a new respect for Rockingham and of course my new friend. Ever since that day we have been inseparable. If I were to write about all the things we have been through together it would span 100,000 pages. So basically just know she is and will forever be my best friend.
Meredith-I met Meredith in the 7th grade and was completely TERRIFIED of her. She was one of the best athletes I had ever seen and was tough as nails. She rolled her ankle during basketball season that year and went right back out and played like it was no big deal. I always wanted to be friends with her because of how amazing of an athlete she was but little did I know she would be such an inspiring friend. I owe my whole high school career to Meredith. She watched over me like a hawk. No one messed with me because they knew if they did she would kick their ass for me. We did almost everything together. She picked me up from school and most days would take me home. (I didn't get my license till my junior year, perks of having a late birthday) She made me want to be a better person, athlete and friend because of how well she treated me and everyone else. I was honored when she asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding and I one day know she will be in mine. Even though she lives 4 hours away from me now we are still the best of friends. We were/are teammates, friends, and sisters. #OutlawsForLife
Hannah-We have been through EVERYTHING together and yes that includes being shot at (not a joke). Hannah has been with me everyday since we were old enough to walk and I wouldn't change anything. We basically had every class in high school together and she was of course my cheat buddy (even though neither one of us knew the answers we still cheated off each other). Together we have conquered loss, heartbreak, many nights we can't remember, gunshots, car accidents and winning. (I know that last one, how charlie sheen of me) I was also a bridesmaid in her wedding and we coined the phrase #Hangmaids because we party like the hangover (the movie) and have awkward fun like bridesmaids (the movie). Combine those two movies together and you get Hangmaids (I know you're welcome for that genius, feel free to steal it) I'd be completely lost without Hannah and her whole family. I am just as close to her two sisters (Glenn and Sarah) as I am her. Her father (Jerry, Ellis, E, Big E) was my softball coach and basically my second father. She is one of the few friends who has stuck by me since day one and I know that will never change.
Glenn-Hannah's middle sister. Her real name is Stephanie but I have always called her Glenn (her middle name) because that's what her father used to scream at her during our softball games. She has been like the little sister I have never had. She has always got her shit together and is always busy (I like to call it hustling but she isn't a drug dealer) She has always been around because of Hannah but we have just recently gotten close and I am so glad that we did. She laughs at all of my jokes and is always ready to party. She's just one of those people who is just always in a good mood. She's very fun to be around and if your in a bad mood she will put you in a good one.
Traci-Life changer, that's probably the best way for me to describe her. She has given me guidance through some of my most difficult times. She also knows how to have a lot of fun. I made her sign a contract a few months ago basically saying that we would see each other every week. She hasn't let me down yet. We also have a singing group together called Black Diamonds (I am not kidding, we are both amazing singers) She is also my hair dresser and is always keeping me fresh to death (don't hate) I have never questioned her judgement except for one time when I made her dye my whole head platinum blond (huge mistake) she tried to talk me out of it like a good friend should but I didn't listen (I will from now on believe me) I love her like a sister and I know the feeling is mutual. She surprises me with her ability to make me laugh when I am least expecting it. I am so glad I have found someone who loves and respects me unequivocally.
Elyce-We are so mean to each other that if people were to just hear us talking they would think we hated each other. We are actually quite the best of friends and she is getting just about as funny as I am (You aren't at my level yet so don't get a big head after that comment) We swear like sailors and sometimes even make up unparalleled cuss combos. We have been through a lot together as well but the majority of our times are nothing but insults and rudeness. I guess I could call Elyce my "Chesty Bestie" take one look at her and you will understand why. That is all (I've said enough about you and my hands are hurting from all the typing)
Jordan-We surprisingly were not friends in our high school years but I sure wished we would have been. Jordan is one of those people where you never know what is going to come out of her mouth. Sometimes things she say don't make a lick of sense but they are always humorous. She is very straight forward in a round about way. I know that probably makes no sense to you but well here I will just give you an example when I ask Jordan if she wants to come to a party this weekend and she responds with "we'll see" I know that the answer is no. She speaks in code I guess is a better way to explain it. She is also not shy at all. One of my fondest memories of her is while at the movies with our whole senior class there she pulled down her pants and mooned everyone. Those are just some of the many reasons why I love her crazy ass.
Becca-One of my earliest friends. We have literally done everything together. I mean that literally. I don't have a memory of my childhood without her being in it. Our parents were sports fanatics and of course made us play every sport available for little girls. I would say our only difference is that she is a Tar Heel and I am a Blue Devil (if you know the rivalry you know that's a big deal) Each year when they match up I know I will hear from her regardless of who wins. That's the way its always been, but we can't watch it together because that's too much. What I think is so funny is that we went to every level of school together (yes that includes college) and we played on every team together. We even played in college. She was my setter and I was her outside hitter (volleyball) I wouldn't change any of it. We don't see each other as much as we used to because she has taken her talents to Charlotte NC (Lebron reference, I know I am sorry I am sports nut you will find out in later posts) but I know no matter what she will be a friend for life.
Last but certainly not least!
Lauren-We have been through the worst of times and the best of times together. I have seen her at her lowest only to rebound quickly back to her best. We seriously are the same person but different paths. We even were missing the same two teeth! We are like magnets for each other, no matter how bad things have gotten between us we always find our way back to each other. Every time we fought a little piece of me died, because I felt like at certain points I had completely lost her due to bad boyfriends or bad life choices. We have grown up now and matured to where we have this amazing respect and connection with each other. Just because we have matured doesn't mean we don't act like little school girls when we get around each other. We can quote movies, rap and make up catch phrases with the best of them. We also are masters at the 10 second hug. If you don't know about it google it. If there is one thing I hate it's that we can't see each other very often because she moved away. She moved away to start over and it benefited her more than she knows. I am so proud that she got out of a terrible situation and is now on the pursuit of happiness. #ShakeAndBake #FistPoundIntoExplosion
I am forever grateful for these fabulous people and I wouldn't change any of our memories. I hope they know they mean a lot to me for me to write paragraphs about them each. We all know short paragraphs are the way to the soul (or something like that)
I love you all...more than you know
Jessica-Our story is unique and if you know our story you know how much we really mean to each other. We met "officially" for the first time at UNCG Volleyball Camp the summer of '03. It was my senior year and my year to rule the court and no high school rival would stand in my way. Rockingham County Cougars were not only our biggest competition in our conference but they were our most HATED rival. If you were a Panther you hated all things Cougar but the day Jessica and I became friends changed all that. The day we met I had learned that my grandmother had just passed away from cancer and that exact same day Jess found out her grandmother had just gotten cancer. The night after learning about my grandmothers death the only person I really wanted to talk to was her. I barely even knew her but I felt like she would know exactly what I was going through. I went home from camp that year having a new respect for Rockingham and of course my new friend. Ever since that day we have been inseparable. If I were to write about all the things we have been through together it would span 100,000 pages. So basically just know she is and will forever be my best friend.
Meredith-I met Meredith in the 7th grade and was completely TERRIFIED of her. She was one of the best athletes I had ever seen and was tough as nails. She rolled her ankle during basketball season that year and went right back out and played like it was no big deal. I always wanted to be friends with her because of how amazing of an athlete she was but little did I know she would be such an inspiring friend. I owe my whole high school career to Meredith. She watched over me like a hawk. No one messed with me because they knew if they did she would kick their ass for me. We did almost everything together. She picked me up from school and most days would take me home. (I didn't get my license till my junior year, perks of having a late birthday) She made me want to be a better person, athlete and friend because of how well she treated me and everyone else. I was honored when she asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding and I one day know she will be in mine. Even though she lives 4 hours away from me now we are still the best of friends. We were/are teammates, friends, and sisters. #OutlawsForLife
Hannah-We have been through EVERYTHING together and yes that includes being shot at (not a joke). Hannah has been with me everyday since we were old enough to walk and I wouldn't change anything. We basically had every class in high school together and she was of course my cheat buddy (even though neither one of us knew the answers we still cheated off each other). Together we have conquered loss, heartbreak, many nights we can't remember, gunshots, car accidents and winning. (I know that last one, how charlie sheen of me) I was also a bridesmaid in her wedding and we coined the phrase #Hangmaids because we party like the hangover (the movie) and have awkward fun like bridesmaids (the movie). Combine those two movies together and you get Hangmaids (I know you're welcome for that genius, feel free to steal it) I'd be completely lost without Hannah and her whole family. I am just as close to her two sisters (Glenn and Sarah) as I am her. Her father (Jerry, Ellis, E, Big E) was my softball coach and basically my second father. She is one of the few friends who has stuck by me since day one and I know that will never change.
Glenn-Hannah's middle sister. Her real name is Stephanie but I have always called her Glenn (her middle name) because that's what her father used to scream at her during our softball games. She has been like the little sister I have never had. She has always got her shit together and is always busy (I like to call it hustling but she isn't a drug dealer) She has always been around because of Hannah but we have just recently gotten close and I am so glad that we did. She laughs at all of my jokes and is always ready to party. She's just one of those people who is just always in a good mood. She's very fun to be around and if your in a bad mood she will put you in a good one.
Traci-Life changer, that's probably the best way for me to describe her. She has given me guidance through some of my most difficult times. She also knows how to have a lot of fun. I made her sign a contract a few months ago basically saying that we would see each other every week. She hasn't let me down yet. We also have a singing group together called Black Diamonds (I am not kidding, we are both amazing singers) She is also my hair dresser and is always keeping me fresh to death (don't hate) I have never questioned her judgement except for one time when I made her dye my whole head platinum blond (huge mistake) she tried to talk me out of it like a good friend should but I didn't listen (I will from now on believe me) I love her like a sister and I know the feeling is mutual. She surprises me with her ability to make me laugh when I am least expecting it. I am so glad I have found someone who loves and respects me unequivocally.
Elyce-We are so mean to each other that if people were to just hear us talking they would think we hated each other. We are actually quite the best of friends and she is getting just about as funny as I am (You aren't at my level yet so don't get a big head after that comment) We swear like sailors and sometimes even make up unparalleled cuss combos. We have been through a lot together as well but the majority of our times are nothing but insults and rudeness. I guess I could call Elyce my "Chesty Bestie" take one look at her and you will understand why. That is all (I've said enough about you and my hands are hurting from all the typing)
Jordan-We surprisingly were not friends in our high school years but I sure wished we would have been. Jordan is one of those people where you never know what is going to come out of her mouth. Sometimes things she say don't make a lick of sense but they are always humorous. She is very straight forward in a round about way. I know that probably makes no sense to you but well here I will just give you an example when I ask Jordan if she wants to come to a party this weekend and she responds with "we'll see" I know that the answer is no. She speaks in code I guess is a better way to explain it. She is also not shy at all. One of my fondest memories of her is while at the movies with our whole senior class there she pulled down her pants and mooned everyone. Those are just some of the many reasons why I love her crazy ass.
Becca-One of my earliest friends. We have literally done everything together. I mean that literally. I don't have a memory of my childhood without her being in it. Our parents were sports fanatics and of course made us play every sport available for little girls. I would say our only difference is that she is a Tar Heel and I am a Blue Devil (if you know the rivalry you know that's a big deal) Each year when they match up I know I will hear from her regardless of who wins. That's the way its always been, but we can't watch it together because that's too much. What I think is so funny is that we went to every level of school together (yes that includes college) and we played on every team together. We even played in college. She was my setter and I was her outside hitter (volleyball) I wouldn't change any of it. We don't see each other as much as we used to because she has taken her talents to Charlotte NC (Lebron reference, I know I am sorry I am sports nut you will find out in later posts) but I know no matter what she will be a friend for life.
Last but certainly not least!
Lauren-We have been through the worst of times and the best of times together. I have seen her at her lowest only to rebound quickly back to her best. We seriously are the same person but different paths. We even were missing the same two teeth! We are like magnets for each other, no matter how bad things have gotten between us we always find our way back to each other. Every time we fought a little piece of me died, because I felt like at certain points I had completely lost her due to bad boyfriends or bad life choices. We have grown up now and matured to where we have this amazing respect and connection with each other. Just because we have matured doesn't mean we don't act like little school girls when we get around each other. We can quote movies, rap and make up catch phrases with the best of them. We also are masters at the 10 second hug. If you don't know about it google it. If there is one thing I hate it's that we can't see each other very often because she moved away. She moved away to start over and it benefited her more than she knows. I am so proud that she got out of a terrible situation and is now on the pursuit of happiness. #ShakeAndBake #FistPoundIntoExplosion
I am forever grateful for these fabulous people and I wouldn't change any of our memories. I hope they know they mean a lot to me for me to write paragraphs about them each. We all know short paragraphs are the way to the soul (or something like that)
I love you all...more than you know
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
The only exception
I would love to be able to tell you all that you will one day fall in love, I cant say for certain that, that is possible because I am not a mind reader or a psychic. What I do know is that when/if you find that special someone to fall in love with, hold on to them. It's an amazing feeling being in love, it warms your body, ignites your heart, and fills your soul with complete and utter happiness. I have found that true love will and can withstand all, it can heal a wound but it can also cut you to the core. Don't be afraid of love because it isn't something to be scared of. It is something to be cherished, appreciated and preserved.
Being in a relationship is of course about give and take. Give as much love as you can give and take in the adoration that you receive. Finding this unique balance will ensure that you will have a long lasting relationship. It is finding this balance that makes things tricky. It takes years of this give and take process to figure out what works best for you and your relationship.
Be devoted, to really truly have someones heart you they have to be able to trust you. You have to show them that you are in this for the long haul. Now I don't mean go out and buy that person a wedding ring, what I mean is, show that person that you love that you are dedicated to that relationship. It could be a public or private display but it needs to be shown.
Last but certainly not least is...COMMUNICATE...I have learned here recently that you need to air our your grievances. It is better to be honest about your problems rather than hide them and let them boil over at a later date. Honesty is the best policy people and if you don't believe me try it out for yourself but I can guarantee you that you will agree with me. Think of it this way...if you are up front and honest there wont be an argument, if you aren't then expect a long, drawn out argument headed your way.
Good luck in finding your "only exception"
4578
Being in a relationship is of course about give and take. Give as much love as you can give and take in the adoration that you receive. Finding this unique balance will ensure that you will have a long lasting relationship. It is finding this balance that makes things tricky. It takes years of this give and take process to figure out what works best for you and your relationship.
Be devoted, to really truly have someones heart you they have to be able to trust you. You have to show them that you are in this for the long haul. Now I don't mean go out and buy that person a wedding ring, what I mean is, show that person that you love that you are dedicated to that relationship. It could be a public or private display but it needs to be shown.
Last but certainly not least is...COMMUNICATE...I have learned here recently that you need to air our your grievances. It is better to be honest about your problems rather than hide them and let them boil over at a later date. Honesty is the best policy people and if you don't believe me try it out for yourself but I can guarantee you that you will agree with me. Think of it this way...if you are up front and honest there wont be an argument, if you aren't then expect a long, drawn out argument headed your way.
Good luck in finding your "only exception"
4578
Monday, July 16, 2012
Allow me to introduce myself...
I want to write I always have...It seems irresponsible on my behalf that I haven't chased this dream until now...I have realized here recently that life is too short not to pursue your dreams...we all have dreams and if you never act on these dreams that's what they will always be...dreams...So here it goes, I will give you my daily dose of what it feels like to be inside my head all while on my pursuit of a goal...I will be living a dream for you to criticize and appreciate...to be continued
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